The RJ on the radio is talking to the cine actress , Neena Gupta , basking in critical acclaim after the recent success of her newly released Hindi movie , “Badhai Ho”. The female RJ claims to have had a ‘Lady crush’ on Neena Gupta ever since the RJ was a young child, sitting besides her mother and watching the actress storm the daily soap scene on Television.
The word ‘lady crush’ has stayed in my mind ever since and gave birth to a whirlwind of thoughts and sorts .
Having a ‘lady crush’ simply means to admire a member of the fairer sex, to look up to a female of the species , nurture a wish to emulate a lady idol or to simply adore a girl /woman for a hundred reasons !
The choice lies solely in the eyes or heart of the admirer.
Why confine the word crush to the opposite sex or rather,why limit it to the opposite sex alone. Is ‘same gender’ appreciation a taboo ? Or a rare phenomenon ?
Absolutely not .
An honest confession of a ‘lady crush’ breaks the commonly held myth that women can seldom admire each other.
Women can and actually do idolise each other pretty much. It’s just that they get caught in the quagmire of ‘stereotyped boundaries ‘ and don’t break out into an ode or a song or a couplet for the same gender. At the most ,we dare to hero worship our mothers or sisters , but seldom our contemporay female friends / co workers / partners.
We over think in this regard, perhaps. Apprehensions seize our thoughts before they dare to be expressed.
Let me confess openly that I have had more lady crushes than a so called boy crush
I have a lady crush on the young and vibrant actress Alia Bhatt for her sheer star presence on screen.
I have a huge lady crush on Sushmita Sen for daring to be a young single mother of two girls .
I have a strong lady crush on my middle aged school Principal who conducts herself with such elan and grace .
And I have a huge lady crush on my very own young daughter who is such a tigress and faces life with an attitude akin to what Simba had in the movie , The Lion King .
Admiration and adoration are not gender bound or age bound .
I would say they are ‘charisma ‘ bound !
Let’s get some admiration out of our Pandora boxes …..
Time for all my friends to share their thoughts.
Who do you have a lady crush on ?
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Remember , appreciation works wonders !